Most children exhibit some degree of separation anxiety around 6 to 8 months of age that lasts for 2 to 4 months; however, the age of the child and duration of the anxiety may vary greatly. Many children go through a second phase of separation anxiety around 18 months of age that eases as communication skills improve, and some children develop severe separation anxiety at night even when mom and dad are in the next room. A child's temperament plays a big role in the degree and duration of separation anxiety, so a child who adapts to new changes easily will probably have less anxiety than a child who has a difficult time with change.
-->Okay, Aiman skang dah 5 bulan nak masuk 6 bulan. maybe dia akan rasa separation anxiety nih. Tapi kalau pegi ke tempat2 dia tak biasa ke takde la pulak dia nangis. Aiman memang tak slalu nangis. Good boy anak mommy ni. Kalau malam pun mak uda dia bawak kuar dari bilik ke turun bawah ke dia takla nangis. So hopefully Aiman tak meragam sangat bila mommy nak pegi sabtu nih
Symptoms of normal separation anxiety include increasing unease and crying when separated from you or when you show signs of leaving. He or she may also exhibit whining, clinginess or insistence on physical contact with you, shyness, unusual silence, and an unwillingness to interact with others, even if they are familiar.
What to Do?
The root cause of separation anxiety is your child's inability to understand that you will return at some point after you leave, so teaching your child this concept will help him get over separation anxiety more quickly. Games such as peek-a-boo and "where's the baby?" are helpful in demonstrating this idea. To play "where's the baby," cover your baby's head with a small blanket or towel and ask "where's the baby?" and then pull the cloth off your baby's head and say "There you are!" You can also put the blanket over your head and let him pull it off you. You can also play a simplified version of hide-and-seek by partially hiding yourself behind a piece of furniture and then calling to your baby to come find you.
-->Slalu gak main nyorok2 ngan dia. Permainan yang paling Aiman suka kot. Main mommy nyorok dalam selimut la, Cover muka ngan bantal la, tutup muka ngan tangan etc. Dia akan tergelak n tersenyum je. So mommy dah well trained kan anak mommy nih :)
You can also practice trial separations with your baby. Tell him that you will be going into another room and that you'll be back soon. Repeat the assurances as you leave and talk to him from the other room to demonstrate that you still exist, even though he cannot see you. After a few moments, come back in the room. Gradually increase the length of these practice separations and he will eventually learn that it's okay if you are gone for a little while and that you'll always return.
When you do leave your baby, don't sneak away when he isn't looking; this will frighten and confuse him and will only exacerbate his feeling of abandonment. Instead, make your good-byes short and sweet when you leave. Tell your baby you love him, give him a kiss, say good-bye and tell him that you'll be back soon and then leave. Resist the temptation to return if he begins crying - this will only make it more difficult and develop bad habits. Also try to fight back any tears of your own if your baby gets upset, as hard as it may be to leave him. If she sees or senses that you are agonizing over the separation, it will only enhance his fear and insecurity. Try giving your baby favorite objects to comfort him while you're away, especially something that smells like you, such as your pajamas or a soft sweater you recently wore.
-->Ni dah slalu buat hehe. Kalau nak turun bawah nak siapkan air mandi dia (Aiman still mandi air panas hehe) when en.hubby takde, nak kena masak ke, sidai baju ke, slalu la mommy kena letak dalam cot dulu, kiss2 dulu cakap bye2, "Mommy turun bawah jap ye Aiman. Jangan nangis tau". Slalu tu okey je la. Tapi kengkadang tu meradang gak dia hehe. Kalau dia tegah baring elok je tu, dia akan main2 ngan jari2 dia. Buat2 kira jari la, macam angkat tangan baca doa pun ada hehe. Tapi kalau dia tengah meniarap tu kejap je dia tahan. Pastu mesti bising. Penat la tu :p
Separation anxiety is worse when your child is tired, hungry or sick, so try to avoid leaving if she's ill, and feed her before you go, and make sure she gets her nap that day. This is also not the time to try out a new babysitter, so if possible, choose a caregiver that your child knows well. However, if you do have to use an unfamiliar sitter, have him or her spend extra time getting to know your baby before you leave and make sure your child is comfortable with the individual before you say good-bye.
-->Aiman akan tinggal ngan nenek n atuk dia (my parents) selama 6 minggu la. So sebabkan dia dah biasa ngan nenek atuk, i made the decision to let nenek n atuk bela jap. Kejap je ye Aiman. Kalau mommy bleh balik weekend, mommy amek the first flight home :) Mommy loves you!!!
