Stay At Home Mom

Wednesday - Went to Dr.Ali for 9 Month check up. Everything went well. Very good is all that we got from the doctor. Aiman's milestones is consistent with his age. He's 8.5kgs now!. Went to KLIA at night to pick up Abah from Mesir. Sad..nothing for us but never mind hehe. Thursday - Do nothing except the usual house chores and bla bla bla..

Heard that one of my friend involved in an accident during her journey to her husband kampung. Hopefully sume okey Shiedah. Get well soon!

Just wanna share with you all this article. It lightens up my day (or night? skang kul 2 pagi??!)

The Myth of the Stay-at-Home Mom

Being a "stay-at-home mom" is by no means related to the term "non-working," in any way, shape, or form! In fact, mothers who choose to stay home have one of the most demanding and important jobs in today's society. This is a career that requires seven, on-call 24 hour shifts, each and every week, 52 weeks a year.

The world's stereotypical image of the "stay-at-home mom" is a woman sitting on her sofa, eating bonbons and watching soap operas all day. The real truth is that the job of raising children never ends. It's not a job where you get to leave work at the office, or clock out after an 8-hour shift. There are always things needing attention, such as: meals that need preparing or cleaning up from, mountains of laundry to wash, dry, and put away, a home that needs constant cleaning, doctor visits, soccer practice, and grocery shopping - just to name a few.

Full-time mothers get the first call when volunteers are needed for any school function, field-trip or fundraiser. If you choose to be a full-time mom, you probably won't be home very much. You will find yourself organizing trips, running bake-sales and driving children whose parents are stuck at work to museums. You put in all the work of "working parents" without the paychecks or the breaks.

The rewards of participating in, and the impact on your children's learning, development, and values is priceless. Raising children as a full-time mom is a career that requires a multitude of skills, including patience, wisdom, and thinking quickly on your feet. All are key elements of successful parenting. Another "perk" to staying at home to raise your children is that your parenting guilt level is greatly reduced. You'll never have to question the quality of your child's care, or if you are spending enough "quality" time with them.

Do you get sick days or vacation time? For most full-time, those benefits are not an option, unless you physically cannot get out of bed or are fortunate enough to have hired help or help from a loving spouse, relative, or close friend. Your work needs to be accomplished so the household doesn't fall apart. Even when you're sick, it's business as usual.

If you are or are considering being a full-time mom, give yourself a pat on the back and a whole lot of credit. When you calculate just how much it would cost your family to hire someone to do all that, you do, you realize just how valuable choosing to be a stay-at-home mom can be to your family!

Memory remains

1. WAS YOUR FIRST PREGNANCY PLANNED?
Yes. No. Mula2 plan pastu tak jadi seperti yang di plan. haha.

2. WHAT WAS UR 2ND CHOICE NAME OR OPPOSITE GENDER NAME ?
I want my child to have Ahmad in his name. So I asked hubby to find another. He likes Aiman. So Wan Ahmad Aiman it is.

3. WHAT WERE YOUR REACTIONS?
Wow! Wow! Betol ke ni??

4. HOW OLD WERE YOU?
25

5. HOW DID YOU FIND OUT YOU WERE PREGNANT?
Bulan puasa dapat penuh. Tak penah dalam seumur hidup. Pastu Raya makan banyak giler ok! Sampai makanan orang lain aku bleh habiskan hehe.

6. WHO DID YOU TELL FIRST? 
Hubby.

7. DID YOU WANT TO FIND OUT THE SEX?
I want, Hubby doesn't want. But I told him anyway haha.

8. DUE DATE?
12th June 2008

9. DID YOU HAVE MORNING SICKNESS?
Sket2. Night sickness pun ada gak.

10. WHAT DID YOU CRAVE?
Macam. Dunkin donuts, chocolate pudding, durian, sambal goreng Johor, karipap, and dah nak dekat beranak tu mesti nak gigit ice je. Heaven! :)

11. WHO/WHAT IRRITATED YOU THE MOST?
My feet.

12. WHAT WAS YOUR FIRST CHILD'S SEX?
Boy :)

13. DID YOU WISH YOU HAD THE OPPOSITE SEX ?
Mana2 tak kesah.

14. HOW MANY POUNDS DID YOU GAIN THROUGHOUT THE PREGNANCY?
23kgs++

15. DID YOU HAVE A BABY SHOWER?
Tak...

16. WAS IT A SURPRISE OR DID YOU KNOW?
Not relevant

17. DID YOU HAVE ANY COMPLICATIONS DURING YOUR PREGNANCY?
Hehe. Pregnancy takdela. BP normal sumer. Labour jela. Kena buat emergency C-Sect.

18. WHERE DID YOU GIVE BIRTH?
Subang Jaya Medical Centre.

19. HOW MANY HOURS WERE YOU IN LABOR?
6.5 hours.

20. WHO DROVE YOU TO THE HOSPITAL?
Umi and Abah. Hubby kat Jogja lagi time tu :(

21. WHO WATCHED YOU GIVE BIRTH?

The Obgyn, anesthesiologist, nurse (kot?). Tidola time tu.

22. WAS IT NATURAL OR C-SECTION?
C-Section

23. DID YOU TAKE MEDICINE TO EASE THE PAIN?
Sume jenis medicine aku amek. Inject, Gas, last2 epidural.

24. HOW MUCH DID YOUR CHILD WEIGH?
3.44 kg

25. WHEN WAS YOUR CHILD ACTUALLY BORN ?
01.45am 11th June 2008. Same with the doctor who delivered him :)

26. WHAT DID YOU NAME HIM/HER?
Wan Ahmad Aiman.

27. HOW OLD IS YOUR FIRST BORN TODAY?
8 months 23 days old.

28. WOULD YOU DO IT AGAIN?
Haha. Tunggu Aiman dah masuk Darjah 1 ye cik abang. :p

SuperMommy n SuperDaddy

Lama tak update blog. Rindu rasanya. 

Sibuk ngan Aiman. Sejak dah bleh merangkak nih, memang time tido dia sket je. Mostly main je la. Kalau tak tengokkan dia, adalah yang tergolek ke belakang hehe sebab selain merangkak, Aiman dah boleh berdiri (with support). Bila dah tiba malam, memang dah tak larat. Still got time to bloghopping tapi haven't got time to blog.

Bercakap tentang bloghopping, I came across this blog about SuperMommy, another SuperMommy and another SuperMommy! Not to forget SuperDaddy!

Tidak mengupdate blog juga berkaitan dengan sedikit permainan perasaan dan fikiran yang menghantui diri saya. Tak payahla saya nak jelaskan di sini, cukuplah biar suami je yang tahu hehe. But to be fair, it's a little about myself, my future, my surroundings.

Tapi setelah membaca perjalanan hidup Super2Mommy dan SuperDaddy, saya rasa bersyukur sangat! Beruntung sangat! Walaupun ini mungkin bukan jalan hidup yang aku rancang, tapi sekurang2nya jalan hidup ini tidak diuji seperti mereka. Mereka sangat tabah! I salute them all!

Selepas ini, tidak ada lagi whining tak tentu pasal.

Ramai lagi yang diuji dengan ujian lebih hebat.

Kalau Aiman aktif sangat, takpe Mommy boleh jaga.

Kalau Aiman suka merangkak ke sana ke mari, Mommy bleh kejar.

Kalau Aiman nak susu, Mommy yang demam boleh lari2 pergi bagi susu kat Aiman.

Kalau Aiman demam, Mommy yang demam boleh tengok Aiman.

Kalau Aiman merengek je, Mommy boleh layan.

Kalau Aiman nak dukung, takpe Mommy boleh dukung.

Kalau Aiman tido malam kul 3 pagi, Mommy boleh tak tido sampai Aiman tido.

Asalkan Aiman happy, sihat, dah cukup untuk Mommy. Love you darling! :)

Foods To Avoid

Hi naem,

The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends you begin introducing solid foods to your baby around six months of age to ensure he receives proper nutrition. While you are preparing for this momentous milestone, keep in mind there are a number of foods you should not give your baby until he is older, including:

Wheat: Wheat is the most common grain allergen so you should not give your baby wheat or wheat products until he is six to eight months old and can handle rice and oats.

Honey: Honey can harbor spores of botulism, which can grow and produce life-threatening toxins in your baby's intestinal tract. Do not give your baby honey until he is older than one year.

-->Seriously, hari tu ingat nak campur sket honey dalam susu soya dia (untuk pelan peralihan) biar rasa manis sket. Tatu lak pasal nih. Have to do some research!

Cow's Milk: Giving a baby cow's milk too early can cause childhood allergies. Wait to introduce cow's milk until he is one year old.

Eggs: Infants older than nine months can have egg yolks, but wait until your baby is older than one year to give him the protein-rich whites.

-->Aku pun allergic ngan telor gak. Tapi kek, kuih raya sume aku bedal. Tapi kalau makan banyak sangat tu bila breastfeed Aiman, dia pun naik merah2 gak.

Citrus: Check with your pediatrician before giving citrus juice to your baby as it can cause allergies.

Peanuts: Peanuts and peanut butter can cause violent allergic reactions and shouldn't be given to children younger than 3 years old.

-->Ni satu lagi my allergies. Memang takleh rasa langsung. Terus gatal tekak. Uweeek!

-->Ayam : aku tak allergic ayam, tapi Aiman ye. Sebab bila aku makan ayam, breastfeed, nanti muka badan sume naik merah2 gatal. Sian dia. Kena pakai callemine lotion. Seminggu baru hilang. Dah lama tak rasa KFC :(

-->Seafood : Ni aku tak allergic, tapi Aiman. Dah lama gile tak makan udang sotong ketam. Hmmmmm teringinnnnn...

Social Butterfly

Aiman is eager for some more sophisticated ways of socializing these days. He loves to play peek-a-boo and trying to find an object that you've hidden under a blanket. A potentially messy, but ultimately fun and interesting, activity for Aiman is playing with cooked spaghetti. The slippery, sticky, mushy consistency may provide oodles of noodle fun!

Seriously, takkan nak bagi main spaghetti kot?? Membazir tu. Bagi main mi kuning tu bleh x? hehe.

Encourage your baby's language skills by speaking slowly and clearly and imitating what he is trying to say. When he says "ba ba ba," say it back to him in a different tone of voice. Listen as he tries to imitate your inflection. Your baby will probably start "talking" when everyone else in the room is talking - a sign he is getting the idea of conversation.

Ni Aiman dah start cuba nak cakap. Kadang2 tu membebel je ntah ape2 la yg dia cakap pakai bahase die. Paling dia suka cakap "Aboooo" sambil menghembuskan air liur dengan banyaknya!

If your baby has been looking at the same toys or crib mobile for several months, now is a good time to change the scenery. Choose items with bright colors and big shapes, or ones that make noise. And now that he is starting to pull into a sitting position, be sure to remove any low-hanging mobiles or wall hangings that he may be able to reach.

Okay Daddy, time to look for new toys! (and Mommy's stuff too heheh)

Saya suka makan!

Kan Aiman dah besar. Dah 6 bulan.

So tibalah masanya untuk memperkenalkan dia kepada makanan orang dewasa.

Cuba teka apakah makanan dewasa pertama yang masuk mulut Aiman??

Ia adalah KFC Mashed Potato!! hehe sedapkan..

Bukannya aku nak memperkenalkan makanan cepat saji kepada anak sendiri.

Mashed Potato tu pun amek kentangnya sahaja. Gravy dia tak amek pun.

Cuma sebab masa itu kami semua berada di KLIA dan Aiman tidak boleh duduk diam melihat kami semua makan dengan lahapnya, dia pun nak rasa gak. Jadi saya bagila sikit. Tak banyak cuma beberapa sudu kecil sahaja. Dan dia makan macam dah biasa makan! Suka sangat. Sampai kalau tak cepat2 suap dia akan marah. Haha begitulaa anak Na'eemah Zaini :)

Sekarang Aiman dah makan banyak benda. Bubur nasi blender, pisang, oren, tembikai, makanan Heinz tu, carrot, biskut Farley's (banyak gak anak aku nih makan! :P)

Tadi pagi aku buat bubur nasi ikan blender untuk Aiman. Nasi dah masak, gaul ngan ikan bawal putih yang dah rebus, campur ngan bayam (daun sahaja) pastu blender. Yummy! Memang sedap. Untuk ibu di luar sana, nak cuba resipi saya pun boleh hehe. Tak susah mana pun. Skali blender dapat simpan untuk seminggu. Okeyla gak. Tak payah susah nak kena masak tiap2 hari. Bagi dia makan tengahari ngan petang. Malam memang tido lama. Kekenyangan hehe. 

Next week nak buat resipi apa pulak ye?

p/s: aku skang tolong mak aku keje sket2. dapat income gak la. Bolehle membantu suami sket. suami telah memberi keizinan. so taknak la ada suara2 sumbang cakap aku melepak je kat rumah ye.

Sekian berita utama hari ini. Terima kasih.

Mereka membesar dengan cepat sekali

Okey first of all, 'mereka' di atas merujuk kepada anak2 kecil yang 6 bulan lepas baru dilahirkan sekarang dah pandai merangkak. 'Mereka' bukanla merujuk kepada benda2 yang bukan2 yang boleh membesar. Sekian terima kasih.

Aiman dah besar. 

Rasa baru semalam beranakkan dia, menghadapi sakit selama 6 jam dan kemudian kena operate. Baru semalam menyusukan dia, dengan breast yang darah dan bengkaknya. Macam baru semalam dukung dia dengan sungguh berhati2 sebab dia masih kecil lagi, bangun malam sebab dia kembung n meragam. 

Tapi sekarang Aiman dah besar.

Dia dah boleh angkat badan nak merangkak. Dah boleh capai mainan (semua benda sebenarnya). Dah boleh bising2 mengomel kalau nak sesuatu. Dah pandai makan solid foods seperti bubur nasi, lobak merah, pisang, jus epal (baru tu je dulu). Dah pandai mandi shower hehe. Dah boleh berdiri kalau orang pegang (kaki Aiman sangat kuat). Boleh duduk with support. 

Basically semua achievement yang budak 6 bulan sepatutnya boleh Aiman dah boleh buat.

Cuma malam2 Aiman still bangun menangis. Kalau siang dia tidur mesti tak bangun2 nangis. Mungkin masih trauma dengan kejadian dulu itu. Sekarang dah sart solid food Aiman takde la nak dengan mak dia sahaja. Kadang2 nenek yang bagi makan. 

Kena berusaha lagi untuk pelan peralihan ini.

Well happy birthday to you my son. You're my day, my night, my whole world :)

Trauma

Well I'm back

Back at KL

Huiks

Aku tanak dah lalui pengalaman traumatik macam tu.

Aku pun tanak Aiman trauma camtu skali.

Sabtu pagi tu dah siap2 nak ke epot. Aku dah peking sume. Dah bagi my last breastfeeding to him. Memang dah mindset nak pegi abeskan my degree n get my Dr. Bila sessi berbye2 dengan Umi, dan adik2, (en.hubby takde, kursus) and last but not least with him, aku dah meleleh2. Bukan sket tau, sampai bengkak mata tersumbat hidung. Padahal dia tido je time tu. Rasa nak cancel je flight. Tanak pegi pun. Tapi aku gagahkan jua kaki tabahkan hati. Lepas kiss Aiman (tu pun kiss skali je sebab dia tido) aku terus masuk LCCT tak pandang belakang dah...

Petang tu aku dah sampai Jogja aku rasa kosong sangat. 

Sunyi. Sepi. Boring. Sucks. Loser. 

Anything negative sume aku rasa. 

Aku benci. Hate. Marah. Rindu. Sedih.

Aku call Mesia tanya Aiman camne. Dia still tido lagi. Ok. Dia tak meragam pape pun.

Aku lega la sket. Aku pegi siap2 nak beli barang n settle things down kat kost lama.

Malam tu aku call lagi Mesia. Aiman cari mak dia. Pusing kiri. Pusing kanan. Dia bising sket2 je. Tapi try bagi susu kat botol dia tanak lagi. "Takpe. Mungkin kalau dia lapar bebetul nanti dia minum la". Hatiku berkata. Mak aku pun kata takpe. Biasala tu baru sehari kena tinggal ngan mak.

Tengah malam aku call lagi. Aiman dah start meragam. Dia tanak minum pun susu. Susu EBM yang aku tinggalkan pun dia tanak. Dia minum air kosong je. Pastu menangis lama2. Time tu Allah je la tahu perasaan aku. Aku dah tak peduli apa dah. Aku nak balik tengok anak aku. Tapi mak aku kata takpe. Skang dia tengah tido. Kita tengok lagi 2-3 hari camne. Kalau takleh gak aku kena balik. Malam tu the first night ever aku tido tanpa Aiman disisi. Aku tido ngan baju busuk dia. AKu cium baju n stokin dia. Everytime aku bau baju dia, mesti aku nangis. Aku nak anak aku...

Kul 5 pagi tu aku dapat call dari Mesia. Mak aku call. Kata Aiman nangis tak henti2 dari kul 2 sampai kul 4.30 pagi. Nangis jerit. Mak aku kata macam kena rasuk. Macam orang mati mak. Aiman tetap tanak minum sket pun. Nampak botol je terus jerit nangis. Sua botol pun dia tutup mulut dia. Dia sanggup lapar je n terus tido. Dia nangis sampai badan dia lembek. Haaa time tu aku dah tak senang duduk. Aku dah nangis macam ape je. Aku takut dia dehydrated. Aku cakap ngan Umi aku nak balik. Aku terus call en.hubby bincang n terus en.hubby kata aku balik. Aku terus cek the earliest flight balik kul 8.55 pagi Ahad tu....

Aku sampai tengahari tu kat KL, Aiman still tak minum pape lagi. Air kosong je. Tu pun sket. Bila first time aku dapat dukung dia dalam keta lepas aku sampai tu, aku rasa dahi dia kering. Tak cukup air la tu. Aku terus breastfeed dia... Sian sangat aiman. Badan dia memang lembek la..

Malam tu Aiman seems okey je. Dia dah gelak2. Minum pun banyak. Kencing pun okey. Pupu dia a little bit pekat tak macam biasa tapi dahi dia still kering lagi. Tapi aku happy sangat anak aku okey je... Benda lain aku pikir nanti je. Yang penting skang ni my son.

World doesn't matter to me now. He's my world :)

Proud

*Entry ini adalah entry mengangkat bakul sendiri. Kepada sesiapa yang rasa menyampah baca, sila abaikan post ini. Shuuuhh... :p*

Well i've been breastfeeding my little Aiman for 4 months now :) 

The first few days kat spital memang ada rasa nak give up je breastfeeding nih. Mana taknya, the breasts membengkak macam hape je (biasala sebab baru lepas beranak kan) and the little one asyik nak tidur je. Memang ada staff nurse yang datang every morning to check on my skill menyusukan anak dah okey ke blum and for the first few days tu la asyik kena marah je "Na'eemah, u kena pam ur breast! Jangan bagi bengkak je. U kena rajin bagi ur baby hisap. Dia dah pandai hisap. Nanti kalau bengkak, u demam susah woo" --> she's a Chinese lady. So i ended up mengepam susu kadang2 kena bangun kul 2-3 pagi mengepam kalau tak xleh tido sebab breast bengkak sangat n sakit siott!! Tapi credits too all the nursery staff sebab willing to ajar, sabar sebab i banyak kali suh datang teach me how is the proper way to breastfeed. I like the football way (kepit badan baby kat ketiak kite) tapi slalu xleh buat sendiri (hubby pun tak reti sangat masa tu) so kena la panggil nurse everytime nak feed the baby hehe (manja tak saya? :p)

Aiman interpreme jap Mommy :p

After 5 days duk kat spital (due to my baby yang G6PD), balik rumah memang lagi mencabar. Sebab kat spital ada electric pump kan, so bila sampai rumah terus beli Avent Manual Pump tu n terus express milk sebab dah bengkak. Hmm memang time pantang ni sangat sangat mencabar i tell you! Dahla dengan Aiman yang tanak tido malam, en. Hubby takde di sisi, breasts yang bengkak n throbbing macam hape especially malam, nipple yang sakit dan berdarah dan pecah, luka op yang tak baik2, perut yang still sakit bcoz of post op memang memaksa diri ini untuk stop menyusu n bagi je susu formula. But bcoz i'm a doctor n i know the adventages of breastfeeding n memang hak anak kita untuk dapat susu ibunya exclusively for 6 months n continue until he/she is 2 years old, mommy kuatkan jugak semangat nak menyusukan Aiman. Even my mother xtahan tengok sebab everytime menyusu je mesti nangis (bukan baby tapi saya sendiri ), "Dahla Along, kita pakai susu tin je la.""Tak nakla Umi, xpe Along tahan je. Lama2 okeyla ni". Saya sampai sempat demam2 becoz kena mastitis. Kena jumpa Dr. Siti (my OnG), dia bagi Panadol n antibiotic plus nipple cream.

Lama2 sakit pun dah hilang.. skang siap bleh bagi anytime yang Aiman nak. Dia tanak pun bagi gak hehe. Kalau nak tidokan pun bagi je, senang dia tido. Rihgt now mommy tengah pening pikir camne nak store susu banyak2 untuk Aiman sebab mommy nak balik Jogja dah nanti :( 

Pray for my success... Aminn.. :)

p/s : To all mommies out there yang breastfeed, well done!! Teruskan usaha anda. To all mommies yang xleh breastfeed, don't worry, there's always a second chance n time to improve. Don't give up! To all mommies to be, breastfeeding is the best  choice for you and the baby :)